Dates
A reunion with a stranger: the first trip, hour by hour
Mira Halvorsen10 min read
Editor, international relationships
Mira Halvorsen
Nine years reporting on migration and family life
Mira has spent nine years reporting on migration and family life across Europe and Southeast Asia. She is interested in the unglamorous parts of international relationships: the spreadsheet of visit dates, the appointment backlog at a consulate, the conversation about whose country. She edits the long-distance and commitment sections.
Articles by Mira Halvorsen
Commitment
Marrying Someone From Another Country
Marrying across borders means running a relationship and a government application at the same time. The routes, the evidence, the waiting, and the first year after arrival.
Mira Halvorsen9 min read
Distance
How to Close the Distance
The conversation most couples postpone until someone is miserable: who moves, what it costs, the shape of the visa route, and how to set a decision date you keep.
Mira Halvorsen8 min read
Questions
Do Long-Distance Relationships Work?
Some do, and the ones that last share features you can check for. The success-rate percentages circulating online are not worth much, and here is exactly why.
Mira Halvorsen7 min read
Commitment
Whose Country Do You Live In?
Immigration, earnings, healthcare, language, ageing parents, schools. A framework for choosing a country as a couple — and for naming honestly who gives up more.
Mira Halvorsen9 min read
International
11 international dating mistakes
The errors that end cross-border relationships aren't dramatic — they're a missing plan, a misread silence, an unasked money question. Here's the mechanism and the fix for each.
Mira Halvorsen8 min read
Distance
The Timezone Routine
A nine-hour gap is a scheduling problem before it is a romance problem. How to build a week around it, rotate the sleep hit, and make asynchronous time count.
Mira Halvorsen7 min read
Distance
How to Build a Long-Distance Relationship
Distance doesn't break relationships; drift does. A working system for rhythm, effort, boredom, and the two dates on the calendar that predict who makes it.
Mira Halvorsen8 min read
Advice
When to End a Relationship That Isn't Working
Two years of flights, a visa half-filed, and a feeling you've been ignoring since spring. How to tell a bad season from a bad match, and how to end it decently.
Mira Halvorsen8 min read
International
How to find a partner from another country
Nine steps over roughly a year, from deciding what you actually want to the decision points after the first trip — with a plain marker for what good looks like at each stage.
Mira Halvorsen8 min read
CountriesGermany
Dating in Germany
Nobody asks you out, nobody calls it a date, and the bill gets split to the cent. None of that means what a visitor thinks it means. Here is how it actually works.
Mira Halvorsen10 min read